Gently Restore

When we offer words of correction to others, we will do so graciously and gently, with the goal of serving and restoring them.

“Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted”. (Gal 6:1)

“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing”. (Prov. 12:18)

The goal of correction is always restoration (not blasting). It should always be done graciously and gently (not harsh or vindictive). Here are some things to consider before gently correcting:

• Does it need to be confronted? ( dishonoring God, damage our relationship, hurting self or other people)
• Am I the right person (i.e. do I have the right motives, have I examined myself, is there someone closer to the situation who would be better to lovingly confront)?
• Is it the right time?
• Am I willing to see this through ( if our goal is restoration, then it may involve a process not just a “one and done” approach)

If you answer yes to these questions here are some things to consider about how to go about gently correcting:

• Pray for humility and wisdom
• Talk in person whenever possible (choose time and place carefully)
• Acknowledge your own faults and ask for forgiveness
• Perhaps ask “have I done something to offend you”? and then don’t be defensive, acknowledge what they say (even if you don’t agree with them).
• Use I statements when appropriate
• State objective facts rather than personal opinions
• Offer solutions and preferences that may help them. For example, “in the future when… it would be helpful if you…”
• Use scripture carefully and tactfully (not as a club to beat people over the head).


As always, I would love any feedback you may have!