Down with gossip

We will refrain from all gossip, backbiting and slander (Eph. 4:29). If any of us has a problem with others, we will talk to them, not about them. We will not listen to gossip, but will encourage others to speak directly with those with whom they have a concern.

At times in Christian circles we can joke around about gossip, but it is dangerous. It can destroy trust and relationships.

What is Gossip?
To gossip means to betray a confidence or to discuss unfavorable personal facts about another person with someone who is not part of the problem or its solution (Peacemaker). It is passing on information that you don’t need to. It could be rue or false. I does not need to involve malicious intent.

What does scripture say?
• A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends (Prov. 16:28).
• Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down (Prov. 26:20).
• A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue. A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret. (Prov. 11:12-13)
• A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much. (Prov. 20:19)

What should I do if someone starts to gossip to me?
• Stop the person and ask if they have talked to the person they are talking to you about. If not encourage them to go to the person. Offer to go with them if that would help.
• Ask why they are telling you this information, if you are not part of the problem or the solution politely stop the other person and tell them you don’t feel comfortable with what they are telling you.

As always, I would love any feedback you may have!